tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post8177657507181307598..comments2024-03-06T05:24:11.328-05:00Comments on Kelly Hashway: Doubt and How I Kick it to the CurbKelly Hashwayhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comBlogger74125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-83672393786791917082012-04-11T09:46:24.819-04:002012-04-11T09:46:24.819-04:00Taurean, I think as long as you feel the enjoyment...Taurean, I think as long as you feel the enjoyment is outweighing the doubts and setbacks, you are going to be fine. I know it's not always easy to focus on the positives, but sometimes we have to force ourselves to.Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-48217450449849867282012-04-11T09:11:46.418-04:002012-04-11T09:11:46.418-04:00I think what Debroah's touching on is what I A...I think what Debroah's touching on is what I ALWAYS struggle with. <br /><br />On the one hand, we should celebrate the steps we make in the right direction (i.e. My self-enforced boot camp in February 2012 for better query letters) but at the same time, not be cocky or so set in our ways that we miss valuable opportunities to help us move forward (i.e. Being open to new markets and writing that does not initially speak to my strengths, AT ALL, and often requires skills I simply struggle to learn...)and all that patience which comes with any of it.<br /><br />Maybe because the pressure of the "Class Act First Impression" and persistent in the face of rejection, it's hard to recapture the joy I sometimes fear is gone indefinitely, it's not, but it can and does go AWOL for a LONG time.<br /><br />Sometimes, I feel there isn't a balance to be achieved at all!<br /><br />It's like your self-confidence has to border on (If not outright CROSS...)"Egomaniac" levels to not be overly self-critical, yet flexible to change without crossing over into "Doormat Syndrome."<br /><br />You can also feel weak and pathetic when you let self-doubt overly cloud your thinking and cripples your ability to press on.<br /><br />I know Kelly and everyone who commented here fights this doubt and losing one's resolve (You parents really put me to shame...I mean that as a compliment) and it feels wrong that I'm having such a hard time, but <br /><br />It just feels so psychotically esoteric, even if it's not, to achieve this balance, and I hope that makes sense to someone other than me. <br /><br />But yes, the enjoyment outweighs the doubts and setbacks, but when you've been stuck at a point where you're just stalled (Craft or selling one's writing) it's hard to stay committed, even if you're not tempted to quit, as I sadly have been, especially last year.Taurean Watkinshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16604609379930060667noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-19708384881083218692012-03-27T17:12:03.304-04:002012-03-27T17:12:03.304-04:00Yay! Congrats. It's great that you were able t...Yay! Congrats. It's great that you were able to stick it out until you had that breakthrough. :)Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-42326049194435686342012-03-27T17:02:57.123-04:002012-03-27T17:02:57.123-04:00Very encouraging, Kelly. I've been stuck tryin...Very encouraging, Kelly. I've been stuck trying to plot a novel, was ready to toss it, and then one morning, without warning, I had a breakthrough. Not finished yet, but beyond the current impasse!Sara Hillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17347650970912643036noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-44769851590728118192012-03-26T15:30:53.603-04:002012-03-26T15:30:53.603-04:00It would be nice to break up with doubt forever, w...It would be nice to break up with doubt forever, wouldn't it? I'm glad fast drafting helped you. :)Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-66434106423546263502012-03-26T15:14:44.863-04:002012-03-26T15:14:44.863-04:00Ooh, I love fast drafting. Which actually helped m...Ooh, I love fast drafting. Which actually helped me lock Mr. Doubt out in the yard today as I worked on a new ms.Which I needed, because last week was a nice little Mr. Doubt and Me pity party. If only we could break up forever.Lily Catehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17732112345439595471noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-65632288680374194902012-03-26T07:23:25.498-04:002012-03-26T07:23:25.498-04:00You should try fast drafting all the time then. I ...You should try fast drafting all the time then. I never thought I'd be able to fast draft but now I love it.Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-49802879200570866482012-03-26T07:15:36.595-04:002012-03-26T07:15:36.595-04:00I have to kick doubt to the curb every time I want...I have to kick doubt to the curb every time I want to write. The only time doubt isn't killing me is during NaNoWriMo. Maybe that's why I enjoyed it so much.Ann Elise Montehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12282717249439524801noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-38899036123077448762012-03-26T06:48:31.068-04:002012-03-26T06:48:31.068-04:00Yes, mine too!Yes, mine too!Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-10263094652822048452012-03-25T22:52:49.557-04:002012-03-25T22:52:49.557-04:00It just surfaces every so often, doesn't it? ...It just surfaces every so often, doesn't it? It loves to creep in to my mind.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08311305166391446029noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-10994747784561682882012-03-25T16:21:13.125-04:002012-03-25T16:21:13.125-04:00I agree. The enjoyment far outweighs the doubts.I agree. The enjoyment far outweighs the doubts.Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-65779515140027743202012-03-25T11:28:40.272-04:002012-03-25T11:28:40.272-04:00Hi Kelly, I think every writer has doubts. If we d...Hi Kelly, I think every writer has doubts. If we didn't we'd all be egomaniacs! I have to put my doubts aside most days. However I have to say, the enjoyment of writing outweighs the doubts. Thanks for stopping by my blog, by the way.Deborah Swifthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10594174632573628818noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-1513100835778864602012-03-24T15:22:29.773-04:002012-03-24T15:22:29.773-04:00Michelle Pickett has left a new comment on your po...Michelle Pickett has left a new comment on your post "Doubt and How I Kick it to the Curb": <br /><br />I'm working on my doubt right now. I just submitted a MS and I'm worried that it won't be as good as PODs...what if they don't like it? What if, like you said, PODs was a fluke? Doubt is filling my mind right now and I'm not sure how to get rid of it except to keep writing. And keep my fingers crossed about the new MS.<br /><br />Michelle, you were the phantom post this week. I get one every week that posts to my email instead of here. LOL.<br />Good luck with your MS. Did you sub to SHP?Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-43615898272199277962012-03-24T15:12:42.975-04:002012-03-24T15:12:42.975-04:00I'm working on my doubt right now. I just sub...I'm working on my doubt right now. I just submitted a MS and I'm worried that it won't be as good as PODs...what if they don't like it? What if, like you said, PODs was a fluke? Doubt is filling my mind right now and I'm not sure how to get rid of it except to keep writing. And keep my fingers crossed about the new MS.<br /><br />Michelle<br />PODs, June 4, 2013<br />www.michelle-pickett.comAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08014841868649011587noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-86170516093753261982012-03-24T13:05:20.606-04:002012-03-24T13:05:20.606-04:00Yes, those are good days. Though, any day you get ...Yes, those are good days. Though, any day you get rid of doubt is good.Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-91964988085415160222012-03-24T12:34:39.670-04:002012-03-24T12:34:39.670-04:00When do I not? :) I have to brush doubts away ever...When do I not? :) I have to brush doubts away everyday. But there'll be days when I could nip the doubt before it clears its throat. So those are my good days, I suppose.Yanting Guehhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04788603550626277974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-35884034075141887132012-03-24T12:19:07.952-04:002012-03-24T12:19:07.952-04:00I like the image of doubt wallowing alone. :)I like the image of doubt wallowing alone. :)Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-7727557610364318192012-03-24T12:07:02.720-04:002012-03-24T12:07:02.720-04:00As you've told me before, it's part of the...As you've told me before, it's part of the process. You're right - just write. I read (I believe in Stephen King's book on writing) that for writer's we get the same feelings every time we sit down to start a new book. Can we do it? We struggle with our doubt and some never get past it. I know we all have it -- i've certainly tackled the issue a few time in life. I suppose it's down to a writer's resolve. Write past it and maybe somewhere in, maybe on page 50 or 75 what was worrying the writer will be sitting at the curb all alone wallowing.brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05480258485472568272noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-9778090555611122342012-03-24T09:13:46.491-04:002012-03-24T09:13:46.491-04:00Kick that doubt away, Nikky. :)Kick that doubt away, Nikky. :)Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-87594979505302353752012-03-24T07:48:16.223-04:002012-03-24T07:48:16.223-04:00This post made me smile, because That is something...This post made me smile, because That is something I mentioned twice yesterday. I am not a writer, and never thought of becoming one, and when 20 days ago I started a blog, I thought it was for one post and just for fun. when I read any comment saying that it is beautifully written, with any word of encouragement I am getting, doubts are coming to ruin the pleasure I can get out of it, so I ask my friends: are you serious? Is it really at least nice? are you just saying that to give me a smile?. My questions offended my friends, but my doubts are real, and I honestly need an objective criticism <3Nikky44https://www.blogger.com/profile/06725453458357123087noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-2960017693076734062012-03-24T06:20:26.258-04:002012-03-24T06:20:26.258-04:00Glad I could help. :)Glad I could help. :)Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-79633087425237926582012-03-24T06:20:06.467-04:002012-03-24T06:20:06.467-04:00I think it must make us stronger, don't you th...I think it must make us stronger, don't you think? We keep getting back up. :)Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-42552730458169084362012-03-24T00:31:12.450-04:002012-03-24T00:31:12.450-04:00You're awesome! I needed this today.You're awesome! I needed this today.Leigh Covingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16377634002477171615noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-68198970983978904452012-03-23T23:46:39.848-04:002012-03-23T23:46:39.848-04:00That would be yesterday. I feel like I fight with...That would be yesterday. I feel like I fight with it almost every day. <br />I fall, then I get up and keep going. It's the only way :-)E.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/08362521696011839816noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6086062096420008519.post-30182317557398393352012-03-23T22:29:40.941-04:002012-03-23T22:29:40.941-04:00Same here. Writing helps me overcome it every time...Same here. Writing helps me overcome it every time.Kelly Hashwayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936313159809041986noreply@blogger.com