Wednesday, December 7, 2016

Writer Wednesday: Life Goes On And So Does Publishing


I've had a rough fall season. If you've been following my blog or any of my social media outlets, you're aware of that. But here's what I've learned. No matter what is happening in your personal life, the world continues to spin. Time keeps flying by. I took some time to myself to regroup and care for my dog, but what I didn't do was allow myself to stop living.

In November, I committed to National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo), but more than that, I promised myself that I'd not only write book one in my adult psychic mystery but that I'd take my Ashelyn Drake adult romance novella and turn it into a full-length novel. When my grandfather passed away, I almost let that second promise go out the window. I didn't write for days and told myself I was allowed to not finish that goal in the month of November. 

But something happened. 

I realized I'm not the type to let a goal go without doing everything in my power to see it through. Yes, between my grandfather passing and my dog getting seriously injured, I had every right to step away from my writing. But I couldn't. I found that stepping away was worse for me. I needed to keep doing the things I love because that's how we get through tough times. Writing became therapeutic. My pace slowed drastically since I couldn't focus for long periods of time and I had to keep constant watch on my dog so she didn't rip out her stitches. But I finished both books.

Why am I sharing this with you today? Because I see writers who get stuck with a bad publisher or bad agent (I've lived through both!) or who experience hard times in their personal lives and feel like giving up all together. To those writers I want to say, live goes on. Even though you might feel like things couldn't get worse, I can assure you they will get better. You can pick yourself up and carry on.

I also want to thank all of you. Thanksgiving was tough for me because I always spent it with my grandfather. This year, I just wanted it to be over. But now that I've had some time, I want to thank those of you who reached out when I needed it. There was one day when I got a comment from a total stranger who found me on another person's blog and made a point to seek me out and offer condolences. That made my day. Seriously. And it reminded me how a small act of kindness can make such a difference in a person's life. So thank you. Writing might feel lonely at times, but this community of authors is nothing short of amazing. I'm thankful to have each and every one of you in my life.


*If you have a question you'd like me to answer from the other side of the editor's desk, feel free to leave it in the comments and I'll schedule it for a future post.

24 comments:

  1. Big hug, Kelly. We all deal with loss in different ways. You're an inspiration.

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    1. We do. I had a couple days where I let the grief consume me. I just cried and didn't do much else. But I was able to put myself out of that and keep going.

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  2. Hi Kelly - I'm glad you're coming through ... grandparents are so special. My thoughts as you still adjust ... but you've kept your goal up front, and for that your grandfather would be proud ... take care and all the best - cheers Hilary

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  3. You continue to amaze and impress me, Kelly. You're right about writing as therapy. It's helped me countless times. Hugs to you.

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  4. Keeping a positive perspective really is half the battle. And the writing community really is such a strong, supportive group.

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    1. Yes. Such great people who know how to rally when needed.

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  5. So glad someone came offline to find you Kelly. If I could I would too. We love you. Condolences and love from Jamaica.

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  6. Writing is therapeutic, and I agree that setting goals and plowing through is even more.
    It's so hard when animals are sick and you can't explain to them why they must endure it. I hope your dog is doing better.
    It's clear your grandfather continues to live in you.

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    1. My dog got her stitches out today. Yay! She's healing nicely according to the vet. Only one wound left to mend itself.

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  7. Very well said, Kelly.

    Grief hits us in such a hard way- and it is always different.

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  8. You have weathered many adversities and come out stronger for it. I'm glad you were able to turn to your writing as therapy during all of those recent tough times. Big (((HUGS))).

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  9. What a wonderful post! It is true that sometimes life can bog us down or knock us down- but the world keeps going and so must we. I am amazed at all that you accomplished during November. I am glad the writing was helpful and I know I am always thankful for the online support from authors and bloggers. :)
    ~Jess

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  10. In my eyes, you've never been one who couldn't get through a difficult situation through writing. :) You have done very well in many aspects, Kelly, and this is one more example of it.

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  11. Yes, writing can be therapeutic. Despite all your challenges, you got through them and prevailed.

    Give your pooch an extra scratch behind the ears for me.

    Lots of hugs.

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